The Woman in the Mirror – How to stop confusing what you look like with who you are
Reviewed by: Jory Fulcher, HK Student/BANA Intern
“In the end, you may not be able to reverse global warming for your children. Nor will you be able to turn the economy around or stop wars from happening. But with the changes you make in yourself and with the efforts you make to help your children separate their body esteem from their self-esteem, you may be able to help make them more comfortable in their own skin, value themselves for who they are and what they contribute to the world – not for their appearance – and pass this enlightened approach on to the next generation.”
This quote from Cynthia Bulik’s book The Woman in the Mirror – how to stop confusing what you look like with who you are is a great summary for what she talks about throughout the chapters. In part one Cynthia takes us through the lifespan, focusing mainly on a woman’s perspective; about the body pressures we put on ourselves from the time we are just four years old. From milestones in our lives to the daily tasks we do, self-esteem and body esteem radically change. In part two, titled ‘Intervention’, we are taken through scenarios where the reader learns awareness, cues, and coaching techniques in order to prevent the negative self-talk experienced daily.
Throughout the entire book, Cynthia challenges the readers to participate in activities that facilitate what is being discussed in the chapter. By doing so, you are able to learn about how your body esteem and self-esteem has changed throughout the years, and how they are currently.
This book is a great resource for parents – especially those with daughters. It is relevant to the current time period of social media and media in general. It not only gives tips on how to approach daughters with body esteem and self-esteem issues, but how improving these things in yourself is the first step to raising a more body/self positive child
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